gạ gẫm
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Definition
Verb: - To make approaches to (someone), especially for romantic or sexual purposes: This is the primary meaning, referring to the act of trying to initiate a romantic or sexual encounter, often through suggestive conversation or propositions. It typically implies a direct, sometimes persistent, and often unwelcome advance. - To coax or wheedle (someone) in order to gain something: A secondary meaning where "gạ gẫm" describes using smooth or cunning talk to persuade someone, often for personal gain or to exploit a situation.
Usage Examples
Verb (romantic/sexual advance):
- Hắn ta luôn tìm cách gạ gẫm các cô gái trẻ ở quán bar. (He is always trying to make passes at young girls at the bar.)
- Cô ấy cảm thấy khó chịu vì bị người lạ gạ gẫm. (She felt uncomfortable because a stranger was making advances toward her.)
Verb (to coax/wheedle):
- Đứa trẻ gạ gẫm mẹ nó mua cho đồ chơi mới. (The child wheedled his mother into buying him a new toy.)
- Nó gạ gẫm bà cụ để xin tiền. (He coaxed the old lady to ask for money.)
Advanced Usage
- The word often carries a negative or disapproving connotation, suggesting the advances are inappropriate, manipulative, or opportunistic.
- It is more commonly used in informal or colloquial contexts rather than formal writing.
Variants and Related Words
- Gạ (verb): A shorter, more blunt form meaning to proposition or solicit, often used in contexts like "gạ mua" (to solicit a purchase) or "gạ tình" (to make a sexual proposition).
- Tán tỉnh (verb): To flirt or court. This is a more general and often lighter term for romantic pursuit, usually without the negative implication of "gạ gẫm."
Synonyms
- To make a pass at: To make a direct, often bold, romantic or sexual advance.
- To hit on (someone): (Informal) To flirt with or make advances toward someone.
- To proposition: To suggest a sexual encounter directly.
- To coax: To persuade someone gently or by flattery.
- To wheedle: To use flattery or coaxing to obtain something.
Related Idioms and Phrases
- Gạ gẫm đổi tình lấy thân: A phrase meaning to proposition someone, explicitly suggesting exchanging affection or favor for physical intimacy. It highlights the exploitative nature of the advance.
- Hắn định gạ gẫm đổi tình lấy thân cô ta. (He intended to proposition her, suggesting an exchange of favor for intimacy.)
verb
- to make approaches to (a woman); to make a pass at